Micro-Moments of Positivity

May 2019

Last month, we talked about the negativity bias and the Broaden and Build Theory of positive emotions.  The Broaden and Build Theory refers to the broadening effect that positive emotions and experiences have on what we perceive about ourselves and our lives.  When we are feeling better we not only notice more of what is happening in and around us but we tend to interpret that input more positively. However, because of the negativity bias–the baseline tendency to notice and give more weight to negative cues in our environment–we have to consciously induce positivity.
This is so significant because most of us tend to postpone positivity–perhaps just until we we get home from work or until the weekend comes, but sometimes for months until we’re on vacation or we’re through with a long-term project. The fact of the matter is that we need to introduce positivity constantly throughout our day, especially in the most stressful environments (e.g., at work, while you’re taking care of someone with high needs, while you’re in traffic, or even just taking care of the normal responsibilities of life).
We need to do this because the broadening effect of positive emotions and experiences shifts our belief in our ability to cope with the challenges we’re facing. Rather than feeling irritated, burdened, discouraged, fatigued, burnt out, or overwhelmed-all of those feelings we have when stress is getting the best of us-we feel more like “I’m on top of things”, “I’m managing” or “I’ve got this!”
It has been suggested that as individuals, we need to increase the ratio of positivity to negativity to 1:3.  In our relationships, it should be 1:5 and at work it should be 1:11!  If that seems pretty challenging it might help to know that Barbara Fredrickson, the architect of the Broaden and Build Theory whose work we site so often here, says that all we need to do is create micro-moments of positivity. This can include the simplest things that cause a shift in what we’re experiencing, such as having a pleasant exchange with a bank teller or cashier at the grocery store, stepping outside and breathing some fresh air, moving your body, playing with animals, making a list of things that you feel good about, listening to an energizing or moving song, reading a funny quote, etc..

We also suggest capitalizing on the powerful effect that visual information has in inducing positivity, e.g., putting up images of people, places, and things that bring you happiness or a sense of peace; hanging artwork that pleases you; or taking a break to look out of the window. We even recommend using your electronic devices to enhance your life, e.g., looking at pictures on your phone; listening to music that energizes or calms you; or watching a short clip of something that makes you laugh, like Monty Python or Chris Rock. Here is a handout out on Digitial Detox that lists ways that you can use your electronic devices to feel better.

In addition, we recommend you very actively address self-care and health. Although we might not think of the physical body as experiencing “positive emotions”, things like being well rested, moving, exercising, managing your breathing, taking in nutrition and eliminating toxins, etc. can both instantly and globally make us feel better.  
The most important take-away is that we need to introduce positivity not only more often but especially in those environments that cause the most stress. Notice throughout your day things that instantly shift your mood and lift your spirits. Repeat.  
Next month, because positivity is so interpersonal, we’ll talk more about how to bring more of it into your relationships.
Positively yours, Rebecca and Gioia
 
Art Directive
Make a few of small collages (maybe the size of a postcard 4″ x 6″ like the examples above by Tabitha, Gioia’s daughter) of people, places, and things you love and enjoy. Plant those postcards were you can see them, particularly in environments you consider to be especially stressful (work, home, car, etc.), so you can be reminded of those pleasant things.  Post any of those postcards on our FB page if you would like.  We’d love to see them!