Annie–Failure Continuing with our summer “Youth Series” we asked Annabel, Gioia’s 16 year-old daughter, to do artwork in response to some of the directives we often give to our clients. We wanted a teenager’s perspective on those themes.  She chose “Attending to the Good/Negativity Bias”, an exercise designed to address the natural tendency for negative experiences and perceptions to command our attention …

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Tabitha–Sisters Gioia and Rebecca have enlisted Gioia’s daughters to do a “Youth Series” for our newsletters this summer so you will be hearing more from them. This month Tabitha, Gioia’s oldest daughter, wrote about her relationship with her little sister Annabel. The best decision I ever made happened a few years ago when I decided I should treat my family …

Being Kind to Our Special Ones Click to Read Post »

April 2018 When we are working with people who are trying to experience more positivity and wellbeing, we often ask them to imagine what their lives would be like if things were the best that they could be.  Where would they be?  Who would they be with?  What would they be doing?  How would they be feeling?   Understandably, people often struggle …

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Lee’s Postcard Barbara Fredrickson, one of our favorite psychologists and author of Love 2.0, provocatively asks “What if everything we know about love is wrong?” We like featuring her work in February because Valentine’s Day triggers so many preconceived expectations about love. These are usually associated with romantic love, with a connection that we believe can only be fulfilled by …

Everything You Know About Love Is Wrong Click to Read Post »

Rebecca and Gioia in Australia Last Years Happy Holidays!  Just a brief note to wish you all the joys of the season and to thank you for contributing so much joy and sense of connection to our loves.  We are so grateful and appreciative. Know that we are sending you virtual hugs this holiday season.  Here’s hoping that you have …

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Gioia–Nurture the People in My Life Rebecca recently had to get her vehicle registered in Arizona.  She’d postponed going to the DMV because of dreaded long lines, complicated forms, burnt-out government employees, and the fear that she would not be able to complete the process despite all of her efforts to have her ducks in a row.  When she got …

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Gioia–Have Faith When we first started writing this newsletter 5 years ago, Hurricane Sandy had just devastated New York and New Jersey.  In the span between then and now, we’ve seen many global tragedies–the Pulse shootings, Manchester, Charlottesville, Paris, Harvey, the refugee crisis, threats of nuclear war, violent political extremism, wildfires and earthquakes.  And we in the aftermath of the …

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Gioia–Time We were recently asked to do a presentation on “Digital Detox”.  When we researched this phenomenon, we found that there was a tacit presumption that frequent exposure to digital devices interferes with our ability to connect with others and reduces the quality of what little contact we do have.  The recommended solutions usually involved some sort of restriction or …

Deconstructing Digital Detox Click to Read Post »